Asked me to stay over 4 first time

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-14-2005
Asked me to stay over 4 first time
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Thu, 10-20-2005 - 2:13pm

Hey everyone! I have been dating a wonderful guy for three months now. We worked some initial communication glitches early on (nothing major at all), and now I know that I am falling in love with this wonderful human being. I adore him and I really know that he adores me.

He asked me to stay over this Saturday, for the very first time. GULP! I love him and I want him to make love to me like I have never wanted anyone to before in my life..........BUT I'M SCARED! Will things change after that? We are both in our mid-thirties, not virgins by any means. We are both pretty moral, and have not had many partners.

Things are just going SO WELL, we are so happy- I want to stay this way. Will having sex ruin it? Is it too early? I don't think I can resist this man anymore. I love him and want to be as close to him as humanly possible........why am I so nervous???

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-14-2003
Thu, 10-20-2005 - 2:16pm

Sex probably won't change much of anything, you have been dating for 3 months.

Also:

"We are both pretty moral, and have not had many partners"

Um, being "moral" doesn't have too much to do with sexual frequency.

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-01-2005
Thu, 10-20-2005 - 3:35pm
Wait a sec... is this the same guy you were posting about (and agonizing over) just recently? What's changed?
iVillage Member
Registered: 02-14-2005
Thu, 10-20-2005 - 3:42pm
No, we've been happy for a while now. We had some bumps in the very beginning, but we communicated much more and things are working out really well.
iVillage Member
Registered: 09-01-2005
Thu, 10-20-2005 - 3:47pm
In that case, if things are going that well then everything else will likely happen naturally anyway.