Asking a girl out

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Registered: 10-30-2013
Asking a girl out
Wed, 10-30-2013 - 3:12pm

Okay so my question is how would you ask a girl out you don't know? Would it be okay to just get their attention then say "Hey I kinda like you so I was wondering if you  wanna go out for lunch sometime so we can get to know each other?" or would you have to do something else?

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Wed, 10-30-2013 - 4:21pm

Generally women don't want to date a guy they don't know at all.  Would you explain?  Is there a way you could get to know her before asking her on a date?  Where do you see her?

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Registered: 12-05-2010
Wed, 10-30-2013 - 10:25pm

"Hello, I love you. Won't you tell me your name?" worked for the Doors.

For us ordinary guys now, do you run into her on a repeated basis? is there a way for you to talk with her a little bit here and there? That way, she gets used to you and asking her out will be less of a shock for her. After a few short conversations, then ask her to join you for a beverage. If that goes well, then you ask her for a more substantial date.

 If it's a woman you're attracted to but will probably not see again and not otherwise have a chance to chat casually, just go for it. You have nothing to lose. Start small though and just invite her for a beverage.

Good luck!!!