Asking him to a baseball game...
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Asking him to a baseball game...
| Fri, 08-04-2006 - 12:10pm |
We're in our early stages of dating (not exclusive yet), around the 2-month mark. We've gone on approx. 5 or 6 real dates. He's always done the asking, which is great. I won tickets to a baseball game, and I wondered....can I (should I?) ask him to go with me? I ask only because I've read all the books (Mars and Venus on Date, to be exact), and it doesn't really specify (for the early stages of dating) if it's ok for a woman to ask a guy out in the beginning.
Am I reading too much into this? He loves baseball, so I think it would be a great gesture....what do you think?
Guys? Would you be flattered?
Thanks,
Bridge

Hi Bridge!
ABSOLUTELY...POSITIVELY...AND YES!
Pianoguy can't make it any plainer.
You both enjoy baseball...you've won the tickets...and he'll enjoy the game even more because YOU thought up the idea!
Any other questions?
Pianoguy
Wow, thank you! I appreciate your enthusiasm! It makes me even more excited!
I will certainly let you know how it goes. If I have any more questions, I'll be sure to ask you. =)
Thanks, again!
Bridget
Hi, Pianoguy:
I'm all about asking him to this game, but he hasn't asked ME out in 2 weeks...is this a red flag? We are both very, very busy with things, but there's a paranoid/insecure part of me that thinks he's just...I don't know, not interested. He emails me at least 2x a day, but nothing....no asking me out. No "hey, when are free next?" Is this him pulling away to assess (you know, the whole John Gray theory?)
Is asking him to this game the RIGHT thing to do (with this new information)?
I'm confused.
Thanks.
I think it's a bit early to tell if his two week hiatus is a red flag. He's still making contact and you've been on 5 or 6 real dates all initiated by him. Maybe he hasn't the money to ask you out or maybe he really is busy.
So go ahead! Ask him to the game!
lonely_bridget...
The reason YOU are asking him out is because you have the tickets and it's a nice way to reciprocate for the earlier dates that he thought up for the 2 of you!
You CAN'T EXPECT behavior to be 100% consistant (in a man or a woman). There are reasons we don't wish to communicate or perhaps, socialize with you?
This DOESN'T mean we hate or no longer wish to have you by our side.
So my original advice to you still stands....ASK HIM OUT TO THE GAME!
Pianoguy
Oh, how times have changed! In gentler times, this was the norm. To reciprocate a mans attentions ladies would (in order to preserve modesty) explain that they had been given or won tickets to an event when inviting a gentleman out. Regardless of how they acquired them.
Now ladies ask if this is acceptable.
If you enjoy his company and it’s an event you know he will like. Who better to invite?
You get to take him to something you know he will enjoy while holding down cost to yourself. What more could you ask?
John