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asking for opinions
| Sat, 09-24-2005 - 6:32pm |
ok ladies, here your chance to actually be able to express your opinions...if you look at my profile will see that I'm a (divorced)mom of 2 boys, a full-time college student, Realtor,and I just started working at a bakery...and I have a wonderful boyfriend whom I love very much..so what am i wanting to ask right? ok...to tell you the truth, i feel like this is the first time i have really been in love...true love! I met by bf on July 4th (3 months ago) this year, we have been together almost every day since we met..inseperable you could say...my heart just aches when we aren't together, i tear up just thinking about how much i love him and how happy being with him makes me...we have been to 2 weddings together in our short time together (i didn't have a wedding when i got married before, so those were rather exciting events for me), have had absolutely no arguements, make and have dinner together every night except wednesday nites in which i have a 3 hour class...our feelings are totally mutual for each other...i guess what i want to know ladies, is this what it's like to be totally in love, i mean IN LOVE??? it is such an overwhelming feeling sometimes i don't know how to control my emotions...and one other thing...i know it's a little soon to even breathe marriage, but is 9 months still the going time for a relationship b4 he proposes?

Sounds like love to me. :) Congrats!
As for the "going length", I have no idea. It's been over 19 months for me (granted I'm a little younger than you) and still no ring.
I'd say enjoy this time. My bf and I still have dinner together every night we can, and it's a wonderful feeling being with someone who makes you feel so complete. You might bring up the subject of marriage eventually, or, you could do the 'modern' thing and just propose to him!;)
The practical opinion says: take your time, there is not a perfect timeline for everyone, get to know even more about him. Believe it or not, the love you're feeling now cannot hold a candle to the deeper, more meaningful love that is possible in time. You have a lot to think about with kids, work, school, etc. Let this be your enjoyment, your escape and your dream (that's what it's about in the beginning). In a few months, you'll begin to see if the two of you can actually be partners and friends.
And, of course, we all know what the non-practical side says :)