Asking out a geek
Find a Conversation
Asking out a geek
| Tue, 11-15-2005 - 4:41pm |
OK, I'm a college student, and I'm totally smitten with this guy. Problem is, I have no idea how to approach him because he has never dated a girl before. I don't even know if he's had a girl show interest in him before. It's not that there's anything wrong with him, it's just one of those things. We talk to each other and we are friendly, so he knows who I am. I know that he's a shy guy, and if I just went up and asked him out, I'd probably scare the crap out of him. So, any suggestions, ideas, advice? Thanks so much.

iruvane...
Pianoguy suggests the "snail mail friendship card" approach.
Pick out a nice (NOT MUSHY) friendship card. It can contain a little humor if you think the man can handle it. But what it MUST INCLUDE is a short, hand-written note from you that indicates how much you've enjoyed the chats he has shared with you in the past. Then you can casually ask:
"Would you be interested in going out with me sometime?"
Depending upon whether you get a response to the card (or not)---you'll pretty much have your answer!
GOOD LUCK!
Pianoguy
I'd take the coffee approach here. "Hey, I'm going to the student center for a cup of coffee, wanna come?"
That's so nonchalant, he won't realize he is on a very benign date.
Yeah one thing would be not to refer to him as a geek. Not a very nice thing to call someone.
Just ask him out for coffee after class to "discuss" something in class and then take it from there.
ITA with Chamey and Sally.
Start