attracted tomy married college professor

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Registered: 10-31-2004
attracted tomy married college professor
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Sun, 10-31-2004 - 5:00pm
This semester, I have a professor that I find extremely attractive. He's funny, encouraging, and just wonderful particularly with me. The attraction seems to be mutual because of the way he is always approaching me. The only problem is that he's married. I'm afraid that this is going to escalate to something larger and I really don't want to stop it. What should I do?

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Registered: 07-22-2004
Sun, 10-31-2004 - 5:13pm
Oh honey no. This cannot turn out good. First let me say that pretty much all schools have a rule about faculty dating students. He could lose his job and you get branded a grade hunting slut. As for him being married, it can only go two ways. He strings you along so he can have his wife and you on the side. This could go on for years while he makes promises about leaving her. He will make you think she is the devil. He'll tell you how mean she is to him and how she doesn't understand him and magically you do. This will leave to a life of sneaking around, being ashamed, and always being second best to a woman you hate and will probably never meet. If you want to be the human equivalent of a sex vending machine go for it. The other scenario is where he actually leaves his wife and now you are the proud owner of a man who cheated on and left one woman already. Remember that he made all the same promises and pledges to her at one time that he will make to you. He'll probably be unemployed since he lost his job to mess around with you and schools aren't beating down the doors of professors known for inappropriate relationships with students. If he doesn't lose his job then he's going to work everyday surrounded by pretty young things which is exactly how he got involved with you in the first place. Never get involved with a married man, it never works out well. Plus when you tell your grandkids how you met grandpa and fell in love, the story should never begin with "We met in storage rooms between classes..." or contain the phrase "after his divorce was final..." You deserve better.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sun, 10-31-2004 - 5:22pm
bb921...

Suppose you and "the prof" DID end up in that storage closet together...and two months down the road, you got an "F" for his course! You'd always be asking yourself the question:

"Was The F that I received based on "my performance" outside the closet...or inside the closet?

Don't mess around with a married man---irregardless of whether he can "flunk you" or not!

Pianoguy