B-day

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Registered: 11-09-2005
B-day
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Sat, 11-19-2005 - 12:58pm
Well, today is my b-day. I've been dating a guy for almost 3 months now. He took me out to dinner last night, it was fine. I found out he was going out with his friends today riding. So, I'm not spending my b-day with him. That's ok not great but ok. He did remember and take me out last night. What really bothers me was no card or gift? What am I to think? I was surprised he didn't get me a gift and now I'm disappointed and wondering if this means he's really not into our relationship or b-day are just not a big deal to him. I'm upset and not sure what to think.
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Registered: 04-04-2003
In reply to: worriedwoman2005
Sat, 11-19-2005 - 4:46pm

First of all, happy birthday!! Your birthday is about you, not your relationship. So, worry less about your relationship and think about all the great things you have in your life and pamper yourself a little. Your relationship sounds fairly new, and your guy did at least acknowledge your big day. Guys sometimes worry about getting the WRONG thing, and after 3 months maybe he just wasn't secure enough to get you something that you thought was lame. Anyway, I wouldn't worry about it. To me, dinner out with my guy would be better than a gift that doesn't mean much in the long run. Quality time is better, and it sounds like he was wanting to make sure he celebrated with you somehow even though he wasn't available today. I'd say that is a good thing!

Keep your chin up and eat some cake :-)

Seya

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Registered: 04-14-2003
In reply to: worriedwoman2005
Sun, 11-20-2005 - 1:02pm
He took you out to dinner which was nice, but he had plans for the day of your birthday. Since it is a new relationship I'd let him slide. However, next year make sure you hammer out plans for what you want on your special day...gift, card, whatever. If he flakes out then, I'd be concerned.
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Registered: 04-15-2003
In reply to: worriedwoman2005
Sat, 11-26-2005 - 10:49pm
It's understandable you're upset. It sounds like birthdays are n't a big deal to him but you should mention - not in a blaming way - that it does matter to you and you usually like getting an acknowledgement like at least a card. It's about if he understands where you're coming from and wants to please you that counts more than his initial reaction which was based on his values, so let's see where it goes from here.
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