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| Tue, 04-11-2006 - 5:58pm |
I have been dating a guy for one month. I feel like my confidence has risen because of this relationship. Lately, I am turning a lot of heads and getting a lot of attention when I am by myself. The only thing that has changed is that I now have a boyfriend. I don’t know if it has always been this way or just recently since I have more self confidence.
Since I have a boyfriend, I walked away from a wide open opportunity to meet someone I have been admiring for a long time.
My one month relationship had been amazing. Now since I have tons of attention and more confidence, I am feeling a little shut in and backed into a corner.
Since Sunday I have wanted to break it off with my boyfriend. I find myself nit picking little things about him. Things that I should repeat- doesn’t make enough money, drives a beater car. I am 26 and he is 33. I make more money than him.
Am I crazy?
What should I do?

thechinadawl...
One sentence from PG:
Either stick with an exclusive relationship with one man...or become a "free agent" who has the option of dating anybody!
Your monetary status is what it is. So if you're looking for someone to match it, FORGET ABOUT DATING ANYBODY SERIOUSLY....AND PERMIT YOURSELF TO ACCEPT ANY & ALL OFFERS AND GIVE NOTHING IN RETURN!
Of course if you choose this option...several men and women will eventually tag you as "a user"----and will avoid you completely!
Pianoguy
It's a catch 22. When you have a bf and you're "not looking", a lot of guys are attracted to you. Your unavailability adds to the charm. When you're single again and you're "looking", a lot of guys pick up on that and back off. Then your confidence wanes back to "what it was" and that adds to the cycle. I know this sounds overly simplistic, but it's happened to me time and time again.
Now about this wide open opportunity to meet someone you've been admiring for a long time.. Why haven't you met him before? Is he "suddenly interested", because you are with someone else. Forget about breaking up with someone, just to persue someone else. That never worked for me either.