Bad boy appeal: is there any truth in it

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Registered: 03-16-2004
Bad boy appeal: is there any truth in it
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Thu, 03-18-2004 - 9:42pm
I'm posting on the behalf of a friend of mine, a gorgeous Italian guy who has troubles with girls. He's very kind, sensitive, intelligent, caring, attentive but girls label him a nice guy and dump him.

He thinks that girls fall for bad boys and being called a nice guy is the kiss of death.

Please fell me in (and him) on what is the truth about it. How bad is attractive and how much is outirght scary.

Do you think he should change?

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sat, 03-20-2004 - 10:43am
I have a (therapist) friend who talks about the bad boy appeal...it's very real and it's about not believing that we deserve to be treated right so when we meet someone who is nice we're bored...people are more comfortable being mistreated because it's what they know.

So, yes, being nice is the kiss of death for a lot of messed up women...so he should consider himself lucky that messed up women are not interested in him. He needs to refocus on a different type of woman.

Is his approach wrong? I think that you should tell your friend that he should not attempt to be friends with these girls...he has friends and he wants a girlfriend, period. Italian men are HOT. The minute I land in Italy my eyes are riveting from the old to the young! The best looking men on this planet are Italian or part Italian.

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