bad form or not?

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Registered: 03-11-2004
bad form or not?
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Mon, 03-15-2004 - 1:20pm
so...yesterday i'm at the mall waiting in line to get coffee. A really attractive woman an d her daughter were right in front of me, and the woman whispers something to her daughter and then the daughter says she(the daughter) wants to buy me a cup of coffee. hahaha..I start chatting with them a little bit and offer to buy theirs instead. Mom says oh, no, we couldn't ask you to do that. Mom is definitely blushing, but appeared to be enjoying the encounter.

I know that women are very hesitant to give guys their #'s when they meet out of the blue that way, so I wrote mine down on my business card and said 'here, call me and i'll buy you lunch AND a coffee, hows that?" she took it and we parted. I could tell she was a bit giggly with her daughter as they walked away.

Question is--is it good form to do that(i've never done it that way before) or not?

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 03-15-2004 - 1:45pm

Sure, why not?

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Registered: 03-11-2004
Mon, 03-15-2004 - 1:51pm
not second guessing, just that i've heard one or two people say it , and seen some posts here that if the guy doesn't follow 'the rules', its all out the window. The rules being "asking her out properly"..I felt it was the right thing to do at the time so I did it.
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Mon, 03-15-2004 - 2:27pm

I think perhaps you're confusing situations where a guy sees a woman regularly and doesn't ask her out on a date, which is completely different from your situation, where you had a chance encounter with someone who might interest you and gave her a way to follow up if she's comfortable doing so.


Of course, if she CALLS you, then you should ask her out properly ;-)!!!


Sheri


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Registered: 08-07-2003
Mon, 03-15-2004 - 2:58pm
I think what you did is fine! Good for you!

I think this is different from a dating situation, like Sheri said. If you start asking out strange women in the Starbuck's line, odds are you will not get a very good reception b/c some women will think, who is this strange guy putting me on the spot while I'm trying to get coffee? But this way you gave her a way to contact you after she thinks about it, confers with her daughter, etc.

I also agree with Sheri that you shouldn't get your hopes up, but if something does come of it you'll have a fun story! Good luck. :)