This is LIKE beating a dog that's been dead for a long time already but I need someone to interpret something for me, and I would really appreciate it.
This is related to the posting about my ex that I wrote not too long ago. Now I am having a difficult time trying to understand what is going on because I feel there are a lot of mixed messages coming from my ex boyfriend.
We have been talking on the phone a lot lately and seeing each other more than ever before when we were boyfriend and girlfriend. We saw each other for the first time in 5 weeks last Friday and he gave me the understanding that he needed time but there is the possibility of his feelings coming back at some point. He told me that he feels nothing for me anymore because of an incident that happened on my birthday night. When him and I were broken up, he SAW me kissing another man (this is the incident I am speaking of) and of course he was hurt by it although he still denies it. He said he does not feel anything for me any longer and sees me just as a friend because he feels that someone else has touched me now.
I told him that the guy I kissed was a good friend of mine and it involved a lot of alcohol. It would not have happened without the effects of alcohol but he refuses to accept that alcohol had anything to do with it. Now, we have been broken up for about 6 weeks and we got together again last night to have drinks with one of MY male friend. My ex asked to join us (God knows why he wanted to join us) and so he did. I was completely fine seeing him, I did NOT feel compelled to discuss our relationship at all but throughout the night my ex kept on saying little comments like "ohh you should just go and marry a rich guy, he is worth your time" and "see that guy in the suit, he is a lawyer, go talk to him" and "so, how is your boyfriend doing" and "I am nothing, go back to B (my friend), he is the one you want to be with" etc when he fully well knows the guy I kissed is my friend and NOT my boyfriend. Why does he do that? If he knows we are just friends at this point, why does he need to start discussing our relationship or make stupid comments like he did?
Also, when we talk on the phone (as we did to today) he was saying to me "look, it will NEVER happen again, you and I will NEVER be together again." Then as the conversation goes on about the things that went so wrong in our relationship, he seems to warm up to the thought again. For example, he said "ohh i dont want to tell you we might get back together again and then if we dont, I am the back guy" as if going back on what he said about never getting back together again. I feel like he wants to be with me, but cannot get the image of me kissing my friend out of his mind. The incident only happened only 3 1/2 weeks ago so it is still fresh in his mind...I am just very confused at this point what he wants. He has told me on several occasions that he NEVER stays friends with his ex's and that's why he cut all contact with me the first time we broke up. But now he says he wants to be good friends with me (no we are not sleeping together and we will not sleep together). Why? If he says the possibility of us getting back together does not exist, why even keep it up? I am just confused at this point, not hurt any longer and I am not sure what to make of it....any ideas??? Thanks so much!