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this is becoming tedious
| Mon, 08-29-2005 - 5:55pm |
After swearing off men for the foreseeable, I got chatting to someone online who seemed very nice. We chatted for 2 weeks only but very regularly and, as I am going to his country and city next Sunday, we arranged to meet up for a coffee. Lovely? Wait for the catch! The guy refuses to give me his phone number! He says he will either call me (except I will have no mobile number there until I buy a phone card and then how to tell it to him?) or email me with a place and time for the meeting. But it will be a while until I get online there and meanwhile it may not be that easy to find internet cafes to contact people quickly when I need to. I explained that to him and he said he did not know me well enough to give me his number and I said there were many game players online who were either married or just messing around. He said 2 weeks is too short a time to give out numbers (although he asked for mine!) and I said I could not find my way about a strange city in a strange country without a number to call and check on. I could for example be late or lost. He still refused, so I said sorry, no dice. Was I right? The last guy who refused his number did so after chatting for 8 months so I reckon he'd never have given his number out at all. Also this guy could easily stand me up and that has happened to me before on no-number dates. Was he right to refuse his number or am I right in thinking he is game playing or has something to hide? When I suggested he might be married he was very offended!

stefania9...
Pianoguy thinks there are really 2 answers to your question....AND THEY'RE BOTH CORRECT!
The 2 of you have only been "chatting for 2 weeks!" For some men, that's not an adequate amount of time to share a phone number (unlisted or otherwise). Besides...he has NEVER seen you before. While I'm sure you're not a stalker or a psychomaniac, how quickly would you trust a "personal element of your life" with a total stranger?
There's ALSO the possibility....that the man is MARRIED OR HAS ANOTHER G/F---and he doesn't want to 'clue you in' about either?
Just chalk this one up as a "LOSER" and look for somebody who can add "a little more action" to the words he likes to use.
Pianoguy