being dumped?

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Registered: 02-23-2004
being dumped?
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Fri, 10-01-2004 - 6:24pm
Would a guy who has been dating a girl for about 3-1/2 months dump her by not contacting her at all? Avoid calling her and not calling her back. Someone told me that this kind of stuff does happen. Is it true?

Things seem to be okay. He has never complained about us. He tells me that he always enjoys my company. Though he is a little hard to read because he is quiet and a bit shy. He has told me he likes me about three weeks ago. But I guess feelings can change. By the way, we have not had sex. Just kissing.

Even though exclusivity has never been mentioned between us, shouldn't he at least tell her why he's dumping her if they have been dating her for 3-1/2 months? We see each other at least one or two days week for the past four months. I haven't spoken to or seen my guy in a week. I called him this past Wednesday but he has not returned my call. This is not normal behavior from him. He normally calls back at least the following day. I am really worried.

Any insights would be much appreciated.

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Registered: 08-26-2004
In reply to: trustlove8
Fri, 10-01-2004 - 7:23pm
In the best scenario, he would tell you that he is not interested anymore esp. since you 2 have been seeing each other for 4 months, but some guys don't know how to tell a girl that it is over. They are worried she'll get emotional, or want a reason as to why he doesn't want to see her anymore and he may not want to have that kind of talk with you. So, guys like that, just won't call or avoid the woman's calls and hope she'll get the message.

I would just wait and see if he calls. If he doesn't then just let it go and find someone more mature.

You are probably wondering what happened - well if he doesn't call you will never know.. but I was thinking that Since you never had the exclusive talk, it is possible that he was dating someone else at the same time and has decided to be with her and he doesn't want to hurt your feelings.