Being friends with guys?

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Registered: 07-19-2004
Being friends with guys?
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Thu, 07-29-2004 - 2:00am
I am relatively conservative girl. I recently broke up with a guy. A friend said something like "if you can fall for him, you can fall for anyone." to help me get over him. This reminds me that I need more guy friends to know guys more in general. In the past, I hardly had very close friends who are boy. It makes me very easy to fall for anyone. I am very easy to be impressed by guys. I want to know guys more before I start any new relationship. Any suggestions? I really appreciate for any input related with this topic.
iVillage Member
Registered: 07-20-2004
Thu, 07-29-2004 - 6:10pm
You don't have to befriend males to learn about them, reading helps and not just cosmo magazine.
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Registered: 06-05-2004
Thu, 07-29-2004 - 6:18pm
Hi,

Do you have any brothers? Sometimes they can give you the best advise. I have three and whenever I have male problems I always go to them and because they want to ensure that no one pulls the wool over old sisters eyes; they tell me what the guy is probably up to and what I should do about it. I also agree with the other poster, there are many books out there that can give you insight about the opposite sex. I'm sure guys will also respond to your post but you might need to be more specific in what you want to know from them.

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Registered: 07-20-2004
Thu, 07-29-2004 - 6:44pm
I have three brothers myself and I was always a tomboy. Having guys as friends is definately an advantage but guys are friends with girls for diffrent reasons that when girls are friends with guys. If you want info on men ask any man, they'll be happy to give advice or whatever.
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Registered: 07-19-2004
Thu, 07-29-2004 - 8:00pm
Thank you very much for the inputs. I am just very simple girl in love experience. I usually have very clear line for boys - either interested or not. But, some time I think it is very judgmental. I felt that I fell (quite like) for the guy whom I only went out with SIX times. It is rediculous, isn't it? I don't want to be judgmental or falling so soon even before I actually know the person. I don't want this happens again! I would like to take things slow. Get to know the person first. But, for some reason, I am not sure what I should do & how I can do that. Some friend told me "never like a guy until he likes you!" I like this line. But, I don't know how I can do it. I need understand guys more!
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Registered: 07-20-2004
Fri, 07-30-2004 - 11:50am
Maybe your just one of those people who are very loving and trusting. There is nothing wrong with being in love with love, just don't get taken advantage of. If you can, don't reveal feelings to someone unless they have opened up to you first. You are entitled to feel whatever whenever just learn when and when not to share.
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Registered: 06-13-2004
Sat, 07-31-2004 - 7:27pm
Hi. I have alot of guy friends. Having no brothers--I have found that I really enjoy getting to know and be friendly with guys.
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Registered: 07-19-2004
Sun, 08-01-2004 - 9:03pm
Thanks for the input.

I did learn that I shouldn't reveal my feelings without 100% sure what the other person feels about me. And also, even he likes me (which I think the guy who broke up me did), it doesn't mean there something must happen.

I am becoming friend with his (the guy) friend now. :-) Yes, we are becoming friend because I was talking to him about our broken up. The friend has a girl friend. I am not worried that he will want more than friendship coz he won't. I think I will enjoy being friends with guys. :-)

Appreciate for any input.