Best friend boyfriend's behavior...

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-12-2003
Best friend boyfriend's behavior...
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Sat, 03-27-2004 - 9:15pm
I've never met my best friend's boyfriend but I've spoken to him on the phone. Tonight my best friend and I were hanging out and he was on the phone and I chatted with him for a little. We tend to joke more than talk but that's fine with me. My girlfriend had the phone and he says something about having a threesome. I said something, she handed me the phone and I basically told him 'listen that is dis-respectful to my friend... you shouldn't joke like that...' Well he hung up on me!

So my question is... am I so far off base here? To me he is not showing my gf respect by joking around about having sexual encounters with me and my gf... Am I wrong?

 

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-15-2004
Sun, 03-28-2004 - 9:33am
I think it was up to her to complain and if you said anything it should have been only what had to do with you personally as in "I don't know you but I don't appreciate you referring to me in that way - I find it disrespectful." With that minor change of course you had every right to say something. Be happy he's not your bf.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sun, 03-28-2004 - 10:03am
he went fishing and he came up with nothing and he got embarrassed...I don't know the statistic on this matter, but most men fantasize about making it with two women. Guys will start to ask you questions if you've ever thought about girls 'in that way' and don't you think some of your friends are cute, have you ever kissed a girl, etc...and what they're leading to is trying to set up a threesome.

So, yes, he was being disrespectful of her and you both. And if she doesn't get it, then it's not your problem, but you don't have to talk to him and pretend to like him. Keep clear until they break up.