Best Friends...now what?
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Best Friends...now what?
| Thu, 09-09-2004 - 4:37pm |
I have recently hit a rough patch with my best friend and love of my life. I went through a painful split with someone some time back, and 'george' was a god send in my life (I should mention here that we've known each other since we were kids and we're now both 29). A little while later, he told me how he felt, and I felt at the time that I could have handled something with him. Wrong move, we started dating, I got scared and backed off, which he absolutely respected. I came to the realization some time later that I was ready for him and all the wonderful things that came with him, but found out that he had already started dating someone else. I was devestated, and told him how I felt and that I would back off so that he could give his new relationship a chance. A big mess followed, but the outcome was that we would give each other time and start it the right way. We knew we loved each other and where we wanted to go with this, so it was okay. Well, that lasted about 2 weeks, and we were right back into the dating thing again. Only this time, he freaked just over a week back into it. This past weekend he explained that we needed to not be dating right now, that we need time and that he's still dealing with these feelings I'm having for him (because for so long I had been unsure of everything)and the fact that he was trying to get over me, but still loves me more than anything. I'm in a complete tailspin right now, because I know what I want. I'm just so afraid that we've come this far and he's going to take this time and either decide against us or meet someone else. I have never felt such a deep emotional attatchment with someone and I know he feels the same way. I just feel out of control of the situation and don't know what to do. I've told him that I'll wait for him, which is something so out of character for me, but I feel so much for him and he feels the same.
Edited 9/9/2004 4:45 pm ET ET by nejjers
Edited 9/9/2004 4:45 pm ET ET by nejjers

Would you PLEASE cut George a little slack?
You 'danced' with him about your relationship together the first time...and now you're expecting him to wag his tail and return to you like a "faithful dog?"
He has indicated that NOW ISN'T THE TIME TO DATE....so if your friendship together means ANYTHING AT ALL...KEEP IT GOING! It's amazing how quickly a man can get comfortable with an "old flame" when she's not eager to...err..."burn his bottom too quickly????"
Pianoguy