Between a guy friend & his buddy

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Registered: 08-11-2004
Between a guy friend & his buddy
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Wed, 08-11-2004 - 2:28pm
I have this new guy friend and we get along really well. I want to keep thing that way, but he once told me he takes his time with a girl, becoming friends first (I really don't believe in that, it can happen though). I'm not interested in him as anything anything else. I don't know what are his expectations with me. The problem is that his best friend and I, like each other. I would love to get to know him better, go out with him and see what happens. I don't want to hurt my friend or get him mad at his best friend, because of me. But I'm not very lucky in love, and think why should I give up a chance that could be the best one I ever had with a guy? I'd like to clear things up with my friend, but don't know how!
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Registered: 05-05-2003
Wed, 08-11-2004 - 7:03pm
Since you seem to already have defined your relationship with this friend, why do you need to spell it out for him? If you like his friend, then date his friend. If he's upset about it, he knew that from the beginning that you wanted only to be friends with him, nothing more- so that would be his problem.

Have you talked to the friend and asked him if he's interested in a relationship with you?

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Registered: 08-11-2004
Wed, 08-11-2004 - 11:36pm
I haven't talked about this with his friend, or ask him anything, I'm afraid so, because of my friend, cause I'm pretty sure this other guy will say yes if I'd ask him out. He's not saying anything for the same reason I'm not, I bet. But we flirt with each other a LOT right in front of our friend! I don't know if he's not aware of what's going on or he just doesn't care.

Lately I'm hanging out a lot with my friend and he's calling me just to chat almost everyday, just as buddies, I enjoy his company and friendship, but he might think we're growing closer and eventually hook up.



Thanks for responding:-)

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Registered: 05-05-2003
Thu, 08-12-2004 - 12:31pm
Well if you feel that your friend is only hanging out with you with the intention of eventually hooking up, then you need to tell him that you are happy with him only as a friend you can count on.

I think that a talk with the other guy is in order to assess how he feels. Then you can make the decision for the next move.

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