Between Mr. Right and Mr. Wonderful

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Registered: 05-12-2005
Between Mr. Right and Mr. Wonderful
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Thu, 12-29-2005 - 1:35am
I have been dating a wonderful guy for a year and a half, and he is wonderful to me...I love him very much, but we have been fighting alot lately, and as we just moved in together, there has been a lot of strife. I know that he cares about me, but sometimes he is just very difficult and I find him hard to get along with, as if the dating woo has worn off and he doesn't feel like he has to treat me like a princess anymore. Not that I expect to be on a pedestal, but he is addicted to computer gaming, and I get about 20 minutes a night with him, when he is wolfing dinner, and then it's back to the computer, and I go to bed alone. It's a little bit hard to deal with.
Lately, my friend from high school has come back into my life, and I am glad for it. He was my first big serious crush, that one that I never really got over. We have been spending a lot of time together, and it is wonderful. He is so easy to be with, and never makes me feel stupid. He just got out of a relationship because his girlfriend of 2 years cheated on him. I don't want to sound terrible, but he is just so much fun, and I find myself wanting to talk to him and spend my free time with him, instead of my boyfriend!!! We have all three gone out together, so they know each other.
I don't want to waste my time waiting to be with my boyfriend, and he has no interest in getting married, but we are living together, and acting like a married couple. I just don't want to miss an opportunity if I'm wasting my time. Am I just in that relationship speedbump where you are just getting really comfortable, and it's normal? Or am I wasting my time and missing happiness?
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 12-29-2005 - 6:56am

sugarbeangirl...

Pianoguy has one suggestion:

"DROP THE CURRENT B/F AND BECOME A FREE AGENT!"

This way you can date as many men as you wish. .

You're certainly not ready to 'settle down' with anybody right now.

Pianoguy

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Registered: 04-14-2003
Thu, 12-29-2005 - 8:39am
Your boyfriend enjoys computer gaming, not personal relationships. Before getting involved with somebody else, I'd explain to boyfriend that this living arrangement isn't working for you and you need to find another place to live.