from bf and gf to just dating ?
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from bf and gf to just dating ?
| Thu, 10-14-2004 - 3:14am |
Hi everyone, I have been dating my boyfriend for 7 months and we have been exclusive. Just recently we decided that we were spending too much time together and that it was making us take each other for granted and so my boyfriend said " Let's date" I asked him does that mean we can date other people and he said no we are exclusive with each other. Then I said "then what's the difference between boyfriend and girlfriend and just dating" He said that he wants us to think we are dating so we won't take each other for granted. I am a bit confused. Then I said " should I tell all our friends that we're just dating and he said in front of our friends we can say we're boyfriend and girlfriend" Anyways I am confused. Also in the past I have had trust issues with him because he went on the net and was flirting with other girls so I am feeling insecure and not sure what to do . I have started to try to get my own life by hanging out with friends more. When I go out to bars I make it clear I have a boyfriend but I still flirt a little and have gotten a couple of phone numbers from men who want to be friends. Is it okay to do this and do I have to tell my boyfriend? It just seems harmless to me but I guess he would think differetly . Also because I do this makes me paranoid my boyfriend or rather the guy I am dating is flirting with other girls. There are so many trust issues here I don't even know where to begin. Thanks for your advice

What he's talking about is simply semantics. And if there are issues in the relationship, semantics aren't going to change things. You guys need to talk about what the issues are and try to resolve them. Just changing what you call eachother is not going to help.
And if you have trust issues with him, this might be something you need to discuss with him. Ultimately, if you are unhappy with this situation, you may just be better off breaking it off.