BF lied to about money need advice

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Registered: 11-09-2004
BF lied to about money need advice
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Thu, 11-18-2004 - 2:10pm

recently found out that the guy I am with for 6mons and lives with me and my twin boys has been lying to me.
He lied to me about money he said he could pay my car bill and car ins after we discussed me leaving my full time job to return to school F/T. He wrote the checks for both my car bill and car ins and the checks bounced.
He lied to me about money again when it came to him not having any and told me he got it from work as and advance and he really borrowed it from my moms boyfriend.

Lastly he told me I was talking in my sleep about someone name dee, which is my ex and that I was saying how much I loved him and missed him and how much he satisfies me in bed. not too long after that i was cleaning out my purse when I came across and olf note from Dee that I never tossed out. In my own opinion I think that He invaded my privacy and went through my purse and found it and plotted the whole talking in my sleep thing to see if I was cheating on him.

This past saturday I confronted him with all of this and he denies going through my purse.
I don't believe him. He admitted to the lies about the money.

Since I found all this out my feelings for him have changed greatly. I don't want him to touch me or kiss me. I can't sleep next to him. I have the feeling there are more lies and he is not telling me. I get the ill feeling when he comes home from work and I am sick to my stomach.

I am looking for some advice as what to do. I don't know If I can stay with him. After the lying. In past relationships If lies were found out I just broke it off. Please Help!!

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Registered: 11-09-2004
Thu, 11-18-2004 - 2:11pm

UPDATE UPDATE

Well I have made a decision as to what I will do. I have thought about this awhile and I have decided to that the only way I can try to give him a second chance is for him to move out of my house. I have a few stipulations as well them being he is not allowed to spend the night only on saturdays when the twins are not here. Second there is no sexual activity unless he uses protection cause even though I protect myself he should too!!! Last but not least I will not have him come over just to hang out all the time. We can go out to a movie an inexpensive dinner etc... But as I told my family there are no gaurantees that this relationship will work. I am still feeling that there are more lies he is just not telling cause he knows that i will not give him any chance. There have been a few things since i confronted him that I find hard to believe. I will tell you all that I have learned a lesson out of all of this and that is never again will I give up my job ever again believing that a man will take care of everything.