bill etiquette

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Registered: 01-21-2004
bill etiquette
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Tue, 12-13-2005 - 9:41am
tomorrow i have my first big real date, which means no hooking up at parties or take-out dinner lol. This guy said he was inviting me to this fancy sushi restaurant which i love. the thing is, i've never been invited before by a guy, as i like to be independant and pay for myself when i need something. so what should i do ? offer to pay anyway so he gets that i'm not here just for the free meal? guys, what kind of behavior do you expect in this situation?
and just out of curiosity, how much is the sex-in-exchange-of-dinner stereotype true ?
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 12-13-2005 - 9:49am

I say let him treat you. He invited you. Offer to pick up the tip.

As for sex-in-exchange-for-dinner - that's called prostitution. I have NEVER had sex on the first date. Ever. Some have, and that's fine, but you should never, ever feel obligated to have sex with someone in exchange for a date. You have sex when you're ready to have sex. Period. I don't care if he bought you a new car...you are NEVER "expected" to put out for payment. If he expects that, he'll find success on the street corners of any major city.

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Registered: 11-24-2004
Tue, 12-13-2005 - 11:58am
Don't offer to pay the bill. If he's cheap, he'll say "okay". If he's not cheap, he could get offended. Sex in exchange for dinner? Fuggetaboudit!

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Registered: 04-15-2003
Thu, 12-15-2005 - 7:50pm
If he invited you he likely wants to pay. And certainly you do NOT owe him any sexual favors for the enjoyment of your company. When the check comes you can ask if he wants a contribution. If he doesn't just smile and say thank you. You really appreciated the lovely dinner.
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