Bipolar Disorder-How soon do I tell him?
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Bipolar Disorder-How soon do I tell him?
| Thu, 11-04-2004 - 2:03pm |
I am a 55 year old divorced woman, told I look 47, and was diagnosed with bipolar disorder in 1999. (Remember the Jane Pauley story?) I have successfully found the right combination of medications, and have been symptom free for two years. The only problem is that the meds require an afternoon nap, and my night sleep schedule needs to be predictable and fairly early. I do not drink alcohol, but many men my age don't drink either. I have met several gentlemen through the internet, and I find that if I don't tell them about my condition I am making excuses for my schedule. On the other hand, I would like the gentleman see me for at least a couple of weeks functioning normally so that the news will not be scary. One therapist told me that I shouldn't tell a partner about my condition until engagement or moving in together is at hand. I disagree with this and consider it lying. So, what is your take on this? I have a lot to offer a man despite this disability. The last relationship ended abruptly when I waited ten days after meeting this man to tell him. He considered my condition something so important that I should have told him before he started to think of us as a long term couple. I felt this was unfair, but maybe he had a point. I need guidance!

I think the 10 day guy was unreasonable. If he was starting to think of you as a "long term couple" after a mere 10 days, then all is not right with him anyway!!!
Sheri