Bootie Call, then a mutial friend...
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| Fri, 12-23-2005 - 11:08am |
I told a friend of mine before we hooked up that no relationship would come out of it if we started sleeping together. It was a stated fact from the beginning that was agreed by both of us. We said, if anyone starts to get feelings, that we would stop what we were doing. This lasted on and off for about a year and then she started to get stronger feelings and I quickly ended it because I didn't want to hurt her in any way.
We share the same big group of friends and recently I started having stronger feelings towards one our mutual friends that was moving away. This new girl wasn't a close friend to the previous girl, but they were in the same social circle. There was about a years distance between this new situation and the older 'bootie call' friend situation.
I started dating this new girl and it got somewhat serious. The last time I was ever serious with a girl was about 7 years ago. This wasn't just a drunken random hook up like the previous friend.
Well, the friend I recently dated has now moved away (I am somewhat sad) and the friend (bootie call) has now confronted me about this situation. I wanted to keep it a secrete from her because nothing good would come out of it with her knowing. Then again, she has no right to tell me who to date. She asked if I would have been mad if she slept with one of my friends, and I told her honestly that I would have minded.
What should I say to her? Our talk was quickly interupted by someone who came over to her house and I left without talking to her about it. I actually felt defensive and want to say that it is none of her damn business. I need something to say that is a little less harsh.
Someone help. I know it probably wasn't the best choice on my part, but if you hang around the same group of friends long enough, it is bound to happen.

Well, of course you aren't required to tell your FWB anything about your other relationships.
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