Boyfriend moving too slow...normal??

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Registered: 12-01-2005
Boyfriend moving too slow...normal??
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Thu, 12-01-2005 - 5:07pm
Ok, I knew this guy about 3 years ago when I was still with my ex-husband and he was dating someone. I always thought he was cute and we had talked a couple of time. Fast forward to about 3 1/2 weeks ago and I saw him again, this time us both being single. We talked and laughed, played pool, and we ended up kissing. He gave me his business card and took my phone number, he called me the next night, just to say "hi". We don't talk for 3 days, he calls me on the 4th day and I meet him for drinks, we get along very well, it almost feels very natural. So we go on a couple more dates, start kissing alot (in public) he is being very cute, very respectful. We talked briefly about our past relationships and he tells me he hasn't "been" with anyone in about a year and a half. I was shocked because he is very charasmatic and adorable. He tells me he does flirt alot because it is his personality but he is not an easy catch. Then in a jokingly voice he tells me "yeah, it's gonna take you at least a month to sleep with me". I laughed and said "oh really, well I wasn't planning on it anyway"...we laughed. We became "boyfriend - girlfriend" about 2 weeks after dating (we had at least 8 dates in that timeframe). So now we actually see each other less, he does work alot and sometimes until really late and on the weekends (construction). He calls me basically everyday just to see how my day went, the usual. Over the weekend I slept over because I didn't want to drive home (drinking), and he didn't make any "move". 2 nights ago I went to his house to watch tv and just relax with him, we laid together on the couch, I gave him a back rub, still "nothing". I am having a hard time figuring this out. I know he said "I'll have to wait a month", was he being serious? I want to be more intimate with him. I am just wondering if maybe there is a "problem"? I would just like your opinion...thanks a lot!
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 12-02-2005 - 9:16am

njgirly9...

PG thinks the key words in your entire post are: "IT'S GONNA TAKE YOU AT LEAST A MONTH TO SLEEP WITH ME!"

If the man has drawn that line....see what happens by January? I'm willing to bet that New Years (or sooner) will probably start off with a.....err....."bang?"

Pianoguy

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Registered: 04-14-2003
Fri, 12-02-2005 - 9:19am

There is no need to talk in code here.

The guy wants to wait a month, he has given you his timeframe. I'd just wait out the month, it isn't that long.

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Registered: 06-06-2003
Fri, 12-02-2005 - 10:55am

This guy obviously digs you! He calls you every day, you kiss like your lives depend on it... he told you a month...

Girl, I wish we ALL had problems like this! He sounds good. Relax. Live in the now.

Barb