Boyfriend wants to move out of state
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Boyfriend wants to move out of state
| Mon, 01-30-2006 - 4:18pm |
Ok so I have been going with this guy for three months. Absolutely in love with him as he is with me. We talked about marriage and kids already and have a plan. He came home from a trip to Cali (where he is from) and said he wants to move back there. He can transfer his job but I would have to find a new one, new friends, and have no family since mine is here in Phx. I don't understand where this came from and why he wants to go like now. We have been crying about this for days and I don't know what to do. This is the love of a lifetime and I don't want to loose him but I think he shouldn't want to go this soon either. I suggested six months and he said he could not wait that long. He misses his family and was back there for two funerals so he is scared that they are not going to be around too much longer. I am lost....HELP!!! I have never felt like this about ANYONE and I am scared to loose the best thing that has ever happened to me.
Edited 1/30/2006 4:21 pm ET by ninerfan25
Edited 1/30/2006 4:21 pm ET by ninerfan25

Don't worry......moving does not mean the end of a relationship. Be positive. Let him find a foothold. I guess he has thought things through and wants to move. Someone has to give in. In this scenario, it looks like you should let him go, and then take it from there. Don't spell -doom- yet. If both of you love each other so much, and care to be together, it will happen.
Let him go. If it's meant to be, it'll work out.
Sheri
I'm sorry...I know how hard it is to be left in the dark. It sounds like he may be having 2nd thoughts about your relationship because of feeling obligated to his family.
Another thing that occurs to me...I know it's been intense, but 3 months isn't a very long time. He may be taking a step back and re-evaluating since things have moved so quickly.
I hope he calls soon and lets you know what's going on in his head, though.
Sheri
Thanks for all of your advice!
Yeah, the best thing would be to just get busy, and give this some time.
Probably he needs some time to settle down. He might have lots other things going on in his mind. It doesn't hurt to holler a hello and see how he is doing. Wish you the best!
Maybe once he has other things out of the way, he will share what is on his mind. I know it is really hard, but don't worry. I suggest you start getting involved in other aspects of life so this doesn't cripple you. Things will be fine...
Even if he has changed his mind about your relationship, I don't believe you can do anything about it. Let us hope he hasn't.