Boyfriends Says I'm Negative

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Registered: 05-18-2003
Boyfriends Says I'm Negative
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Tue, 09-28-2004 - 5:41pm
My boyfriend tells me he loves me almost every day but lately his BEHAVIOR hasn't backed up his WORDS. He has not shown up at events he told me he would meet me at and has avoiding telling me where he was instead. He's said some thing about me that made me feel as if I'm incompetent to do the job I do. He has made choices not to see me when we have the opportunity to be together - instead he'll go golfing with friends. This is not like the guy I first started dating. At first he was sensitive and caring and I knew he truly wanted to be with me. Now he doesn't give me the common courtesy he gives a stranger! When I told him how I felt about things he told me that I was being too negative about him and making him feel bad about himself. He refused to listen to me and kept telling me that I was using the word "you" (meaning him) too many times in the conversation. I'm at a lost as to what to do......please advise!
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 09-28-2004 - 6:51pm
You need to decide for yourself what behavior is acceptable to you and what isn't. If he is engaging in behavior that is unacceptable to you, then you need to end the r'ship. He's not going to change, so you either need to accept him as is, or leave.

Sheri