this boy's confusing me!
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| Wed, 05-12-2004 - 8:26am |
We have been in regular contact via email, cell phone and I have met him once over the past 3 weeks. We usually write to each other about 5 times a day! The last contact I had with him was a week ago when I sent him an email. He only replied today explaining the terrible time he had at work as well as a bout of flu which got him down. He apologised for taking so long to reply and asked me a few questions like how I was doing, etc etc. My immediate reaction was to write back straight away, but then decided to let him wait for a while.
He is quite a bit younger than I am (he's 24, I'm 31). My gut feeling tells me he just wants a casual friendship (nothing physical has happened between us), but I enjoy his emails so much and love his sense of humour.
Should I let my email reply wait a little while longer or should I not "play games" and reply now?

If ou're wanting platonic friendship - continuingon email as a primary venue to converse is alright. Because you're not putting him in your future or integral to it in any way.
If you're wanting more than platonic involvement STOP emailing as a method of conversationa nd getting to know one another because that method leads to projections and assumptions which are often used as facts...and you take action to your own detriment at some point.
If all he wnats to do is email...then all that is possible for you to have with him is platonic friendship if you're self-aware and self-responsible. But it is possible that he wants to email so much because that allows you both to "assume" that you know one another when you do not...so that when you next meet there is this bond that is assumed ot exist...and that often leads to quick physical intimacy - based on assumptions, which are used as facts, to your own detriment at some point.
Erin
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I had to laugh! I replied to his email this morning and got a reply back in 6 minutes! I am going to a cigarette launch tomorrow night and he has asked me to steal some cigarettes for him 'cause he loves the brand involved! (I also happened to tell him that I was taking a work colleague with me to the launch!) :)
Life works in strange ways. You are keen, the guy retracts back. Then as soon as you retract he comes back in leaps and bounds. Which all comes back to the saying "you want what you can't get!"