To Breakup or to not breakup??

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Registered: 06-17-2004
To Breakup or to not breakup??
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Sun, 11-21-2004 - 9:53pm
I've been going out with this guy for 2 1/2 months now... he's a great guy! funny, smart, handsome... we are very passionate and we have alot of sex... we have good conversations most of the time... our communication is ok ... he's kinda slow on picking up my signals... he sometimes is off in his own little world and could be completely oblivious to me... i know he loves me and is crazy about me... but sometimes i can't stand it... he drives me crazy... i feel like i need a little more attention... is that a bad thing to say??? he's a writer and comic lover and when he's doing anything that pertains to that -- you might as well be talking to a wall... we have lots of fights but we usually work them out... but now i'm starting to wonder what's the point?? i don't know what to do ???
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Registered: 11-03-2004
Mon, 11-22-2004 - 12:04am
I am not a relationship expert by far, otherwise I would not be checking out this message board. But 2 and 1/2 months seem so premature to say that you are already in love. When two people are in a relationship, they still have their own things that they are passionate about. In this case, it seems that your guy loves comic. I think it is actually good to give him that time alone just so that he can enjoy what he likes. At the same time, you won't feel too frustrated. You can't expect him to pay attention to you 100% of the time. That is not healthy and too clingy. No one should lose themselves in a relationship. Beside his comics, in what other ways did he not pay enough attention to you? It sounds like you two had a really fast jump into this relationship. What makes you not want to work this out? Try talking to him about your concerns. I think he will take it well. At least, it seems that you have communicated with him about other things before. But don't sound too serious when talking to him about this. Good luck!


Edited 11/22/2004 12:06 am ET ET by magnolia2001