broke up and got back together

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Registered: 12-03-2003
broke up and got back together
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Sat, 05-08-2004 - 11:08pm
the boyfriend and i went out for almost 2 years and then he kicked me out kind of suddenly and we talked and he decided he had some stuff he needed to do to get happy. so i gave him his space.. after our talk i didnt email or talk to him for a week then he called me and wanted to hang out..we have been hanging out since then once or twice a week. this last week he asked me over three nights in a row. he has an online account with match.com and has winks and im's from girls in the area.. that bugs me but i dont want to aske him because i love him and dont want to mess things up.. He also probaly hasnt told his parents who are awesome that we are hanging out again.. hes also telling friends on line that im his girlfriend. I just want to know where i stand and any advise would be appriciated.

thanks
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Registered: 10-06-2003
Mon, 05-10-2004 - 1:39am
Dear arabigirl,

Your situation seems rather confusing.. he's tellin ppl u r his gf but he is hooked up w 'match.com'. seems like this guys wans e best of both girls'- U & other girls (as spares?)

Do you like him a lot? How long hv u been together? I get this feeling u do like him a lot coz u went back to him despite his indecisiveness.



If you wanna give it another shot, u can.. but pls guard your heart. It's e most presious pocession u own & it should be given to only someone who will treat it right- like a treasure. Try being frens, put some distance 1st & see what he's up to. Also let him know that he must treat u proper if not forget it! no half-hearted attempt. either be frens or gf-bf. dun let him confuse u on whether u r his gf or fren. make it clear. no intimacy for now.. dun get urself more hurt until things are stable. u deserve beta.

all e best!

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Mon, 05-10-2004 - 1:39am
are you having sex with him?
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Registered: 12-03-2003
Mon, 05-10-2004 - 10:26am
thanks for the advise. i love him and we have been going out for 2 years and then doing the weird hanging out thing for 5 months. yes were sleeping together and have been since we started hanging out again. i found out about the match.com thing by getting his picture in an email.. i dont think he's go out with any of the people on there he's just resonded to wink or ims. im over there often enough to know that his house is way to messy for him to have invited any one else over. lol.

ah well im sure everything will work its self out in the end.
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Registered: 12-03-2003
Wed, 05-19-2004 - 9:46am
well htings have gotten interesting in a good way. I went to watch the boy play hockey with him and his dad.. which is the first contact with one of his parents in over 5 months. and then got to talk to his mom over walky talky. one night i told him about seeing his pict in dating sites and that i was confused about where we were going. We talked a little bit which is a big step cause he's the type who just holds everything inside. i have totaly been trying to not go over there every night cause i want him to have his space but last night after 4 nights of staying over i told him i was going to stay home to give him his space and he said to come over cause he didn't want his space and i asked him if he was serious. he said yes. and he has been extra sweet and loving the past couple of weeks. im hopeing everything turns out good cause he's my first love and hope this last forever.. ;-)

yeahhh
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Registered: 12-03-2003
Thu, 05-20-2004 - 9:16pm
ahhh he's been so freakin nice this last week and as i was showing him what email to delete from me there was on for your matches from match.com.. what the you'd think he;d be smarted..
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Registered: 12-03-2003
Tue, 05-25-2004 - 10:24am
ok so that latest and most up to date news is that the boyfriend apologized for hurting me when we broke up and that he had been having some weird personal problems and that he has finaly realized that everything he could want in a girlfriend i am.. and he seems much much happier now and we are talking about how we feel which is sorta new for us. so this should be it for me on here. thanks for the advise.