Broke me twice in 2 months

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Registered: 11-08-2004
Broke me twice in 2 months
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Mon, 11-08-2004 - 2:13am
Im a 20 year old guy...i chose this site because of all the women that visit it, so i might get a good answer to my problem.

I met a 16 year old girl. Yes shes young but so am i. Were both from the middle eastern region..we think in a different way. We marry young and dont 'date' but instead take our relationships seriously. For example...she said she plans to get married at 18.

After meeting this girl by complete fate (and i mean it, its a long story but it was complete fate) we had the best time together...we could talk to each other about anything!...we held each other and it felt so right.

Apparently she's scared of getting serious so she broke it off once...then we saw each other as friends and eventually she put her arm around me and before i knew it, we were together again. Then later she broke it off again saying shes going through a lot of problems in her life and that it would be selfish to put me through it and that im 'too perfect for' her.

My question is, i fell for this girl...now shes suggesting not to ever see or talk to me again so she doesnt fall for me. Do girls really go to that extend in order not to fall for someone? Why does this girl get scared off by how good i am? isnt that a good thing? i told her i wanna be there for her for all her ups and downs. She just says 'no' and cries. Shes really troubled and really hurt and i wanna pick her up and hold her hand and get her through but shes completely cut me off and wont let me back in her life...

what do i do? do i just leave her alone? i realllllly like this girl but not been long enough with her to use the 'L' word.

she told me many times she would wanna know a guy for years before she eventually marries that guy. she wont even let me into her life to get to know her and shes planning to marry in 2 or 3 yrs.

Any info will be great!

- Alan

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Registered: 08-06-2004
Mon, 11-08-2004 - 3:51am
If she keeps breaking up with you she is probably not ready for a serious relationship. You have to work on a relationship and not run off when things are getting tough.

I think she doesn't have a lot of experience with relationships since she is only 16 years old.

If I were you I would just let her be.

I would have a hard time trusting my guy when he already broke up with me twice.

I wish you all the best!