Broken up & e-mailing in 2 days?

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Registered: 09-27-2005
Broken up & e-mailing in 2 days?
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Thu, 09-29-2005 - 6:52pm


I had posted earlier regarding my long distance relationship. and how he needed a one month break to figure things out. i had decided to break up with him after that and i did so. we did not talk for 2 days. just an hour ago, he writes to me to ask how i am doing?! what am i supposed to say? guys, what does that mean???? this is what he writes:

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How r u doing? I am really very sorry for what is happening....I truly am......I am praying with all my heart that you feel better.....Please let me know how u r doing.....

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can anyone please tell me what this means?
what am i supposed to say?
here, i am mentally and emotionally getting adjusted to life without him, and in 2 days, he writes back. can anyone translate this email to what he actually intends?

does he want me to say "i am fine", or "i am not fine". "how are you doing" right after a break up, is a very weird question.

please help me.
thanks....

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 09-29-2005 - 8:08pm

He's feeling guilty and wants you to make him feel better by saying you're ok.

Personally, I'd be tempted to write back, "how do you THINK I'm doing?" And ask him not to contact me anymore.

Sheri

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Registered: 05-31-2005
Thu, 09-29-2005 - 8:25pm

I'm with Sheri on the reasoning but I also think he obviously cares for you and wants to make sure you're ok. He just doesn't care enough to stick it out.


On my end though, I think silence is the best policy because that will ultimately bother him more than any response you could give him... Silence is a torment!

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Registered: 09-27-2005
Thu, 09-29-2005 - 10:17pm
thank you for the insight. i am still deliberating what to do and have kept silent..