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Broken Heart
| Wed, 02-15-2006 - 9:55pm |
I just found out the my boyfriend of 7 years (engaged for 4 years) was cheating on me. Everything was going great. We had a house, a dog and talking about our future. He told me he loved me everyday for 7 years and was very sincere about it everytime. In the matter of 2 days, he told me he wanted some space for a while (maybe a week?) and asked me to stay at my parents house. He said that he just wants to on his own for a while. I told him that is not what I wanted but, I did take all my stuff and left. He has a lot of personal issuse that have hit him hard in the past month. After I moved, I went to check up on him 3 days later to make sure he was alright. I walked in to find him with another girl! He asked me why I was there and told me to go and it was over and he had no reason. I think he said this because there was another women there and didn't want to look like a jerk. I am totally shocked because this is SO out of character for him and he has NEVER acted this way before. He hasn't contacted me since. Im totally heartbroken and I can forgive him and still love him. I am totally lost at this point. Should I just let it be? Should I let time go by and try to contact him?
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| Wed, 02-15-2006 - 10:51pm |
I know you are hurting and that you love him, but do NOT contact him no matter how hard it is. He has obviously moved on - IMO, this is technically not cheating as you were on a break from each other (these are those tough call ones) but regardless - he was with another woman and obviously wanted it that way. Although what he did was incredibly insensitive and hurtful, his actions should show you the kind of person he really is. Do you want to be with someone that would treat you and your feeling so cavalierly? He treated this new woman better than you - his girlfriend of 7 years. He was looking out for himself and her and totally disregarded your feelings. You need some time away from him and this situation. Do whatever you can to keep yourself from contacting him.
| Thu, 02-16-2006 - 2:10am |
Hunny bunny, if you were engaged for 4 years and still no wedding in sight then it was never going to happen. He got you to move in with mom & dad on the pretense of a break to get you out quickly and quietly. Whether it's technically cheating or not is irrelevant -- he hopped the first thing in heels. That should tell you where you are on the totem pole with him. Forgive YOURSELF for beating this dead horse for 7 years and move on.
| Thu, 02-16-2006 - 8:05am |
Most men (and women) who cheat once and get away with it just end up doing it again. Even assuming he does want to get back together with you, I wouldn't take him back. He obviously wasn't very sorry he did it, or he would have reacted differently to you when you found him. Like a previous poster said - if you've been engaged for 4 years, you had to of known he was never going to go the distance and marry you. Some men get engaged when they feel they have to move it to that step or leave the relationship. IMO his having you take all of your things and go to your parents should tell you that its over. He wouldn't have had you move all your things out if he didn't intend for you to stay gone. If you have joint accounts, etc, I would make sure you go right away and take what is yours before it conveniently dissapears. Also, you said that the house was both of yours.. if it was legally both of yours (both names on it), I would get a lawyer and make sure you get what you are intitled to. Don't let him walk all over you just because your heart is broken. You will regret it later.


