To call or not to call?

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-10-2007
To call or not to call?
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Wed, 10-10-2007 - 4:46pm

Ok.

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-06-2004
Wed, 10-10-2007 - 7:25pm
Yes.
iVillage Member
Registered: 11-21-2003
Thu, 10-11-2007 - 8:23am
Text him a breezy message asking what's up and wait. If he texts back, but doesn't set a plan for a date it'll be time to move on.
iVillage Member
Registered: 10-09-2007
Thu, 10-11-2007 - 9:56am

No don't think you should call.


If he had only said "Call me or text me." And he didn't text you that night. I would have said that after 2 days give him a call and thank him for the date. Make it a brief call and don't suggest a date. Just say "I wanted to thank you for dinner." But, now it's been a week so calling him is out of place. And he knows you like him b/c he texted you after the date. He hasn't forgotten your number or how to text you. I think you should wait for him to call you. You are worth that. Remember you want him to want you. If you call him then he will know that you want him. He won't try as hard to get you b/c he will know "Oh she call me anyway." I ALWAYS regret when I call a guy b/c I hadn't heard from him. I already knew where he stood before I called but my impulses took over and I called. Then I regretted. So we've all been there. Just find something you love and keep your mind busy with that. He may just be really busy at work. It happens. But wait for him.

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-26-2007
Thu, 10-11-2007 - 10:01am

~~He asked me to call or text him or he would contact me to set up a second date.~~

This is your answer. Call him. I don't buy into a man will call if he is interest so women should NOT make the call. Maybe he is thinking your not interested in him? He asked you to get in contact with him and it appears you didn't. What harm is a phone call or text message?

I'm not advocating that you should call repeatedly or appear to stalk someone, but men can be insecure about the women they date too.

LG
iVillage Member
Registered: 10-09-2007
Sat, 10-13-2007 - 4:42am

Him asking you to call or text him to setup the next date was inappropriate to me.