Call or not to call?

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-10-2005
Call or not to call?
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Fri, 10-14-2005 - 5:27am

I really dont know what board I should be asking this question too but all of them have good advise so here goes.

I have this guy friend who moved away in March. I havent seen him much since but I miss him. Last night he called but I was sleeping. He didnt leave a message. He never does which Im ok with. I always know what he wants anyways. So here is my problem. I havent talked to him since July. Wow I know that is a long time but he is a very busy man and I have been very busy myself. We both have been working our butts off. Now here is the thing. As I said he called and didnt leave a message. Now I dont know if I should phone him back tomorrow or should I just wait to see if he phones again soon. He usually phones me but last time I talked to him he still had a gf. I dont know if that has changed, it doesnt bother me but I dont know how she feels about her man having a girl who is a friend. I do have the games he is looking for and would love to tell him.

Please advise

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-14-2003
Fri, 10-14-2005 - 8:42am
Give him a call and find out what he wanted.
iVillage Member
Registered: 04-15-2003
Fri, 10-14-2005 - 12:17pm

He called you so you can call and say, sorry i missed your call. (Bless caller ID)


However if he is just your platonic friend which you say he is - and the two of you don't live near each other, plus he has a girlfriend - then why is this so important? You're calling yourself broken hearted after all.


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iVillage Member
Registered: 10-10-2005
Fri, 10-14-2005 - 12:35pm

I am calling myself broken-hearted because I am having problems with my boyfriend or ex boyfriend I should say. Totally another story.

His call is important to me because I havent talked to him in such a long time. Not to mention that he used to be friends with my "bf" so he can give me advise. I really need to talk to him and get his advise. He only lives a couple of hours away but he doesnt get down here very often and when I am up there I am always with my ex friend.

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-31-2005
Fri, 10-14-2005 - 1:19pm

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Curious... what did you mean by this?


iVillage Member
Registered: 10-10-2005
Fri, 10-14-2005 - 5:01pm
I have a way of getting him Xbox games. He collects them. If I get any when he is around I give them too him. Right now I did get a couple and would love to tell him that I got them for him. Other than talking to him I dont know how to tell him that I have them.
iVillage Member
Registered: 05-31-2005
Fri, 10-14-2005 - 8:41pm

Ahhh I see... but if he hasn't called since July but did last night, why be nice to him? There seems to be more here than meets the eye... You say your friends but unless there's a fight, friends don't go so long without speaking...


Did something actually happen between the two of you? (Reason I ask is b/c I have a male friend who is strictly platonic and though he moved to FL, we still talk at least once a week, maybe once every two weeks...


So what am I not getting here? Help me... :o)


iVillage Member
Registered: 10-10-2005
Fri, 10-14-2005 - 10:10pm
My friend and I used to be romantically involved. We are no longer involved but are still friends. We have our own lives and do not have any of the same friends. He now lives in a town two hours away. He had a girlfriend and my guess is that he is not only wanting to hang out but lean on my shoulder. They are probably having problems. I also need his shoulder to lean on. I recently had my heart broken by my boyfriend.