to call or not, is he still interested

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Registered: 07-05-2006
to call or not, is he still interested
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Wed, 07-05-2006 - 4:07pm


I "officially" met this guy on June 3rd. He works at a bar that I frequent & he had spoken to me a few times before, kind of flirting/picking on me whenever I would come in the bar, but I never really paid any attention to him. We ended up flirting throughout the night, then before I was going to leave I pulled him off to the side & said, "Ask me for my number." So basically I made the first move. He ended up driving me & my friends back to their place where our cars were & after talking for awhile we made out a little bit. I texted him the next day but he never called me. So here comes June 24, he calls me out of the blue. He has a work phone (they pay the bill) & hates text messaging. He said he got a new company cell phone and my number wasn't saved, so he went to his company's human resources and asked to see the bill; he found my text & called the number, it was me on the voicemail, so he knew he'd found the right number.

We ended up hanging out this past Monday, which eventually leads to more kissing. He was going to the beach the next day (Tues-Sun) & I was going out of town that Fri-Sun, so I said I would call him after he got back in town on Sun. He said jokingly that I could call him before then b/c his phone still worked there, so I called him 3 days later. It went straight to voicemail so I left a message. Now it's been 6 days since I called, but only 3 days since we've both been back & he hasn't called me.

Should I just give up, or try one more time? My phone is very temperamental & sometimes people don't get my messages, plus he could be thinking that I didn't call him like I said I would, if he never got the message!

Help, I'm driving myself crazy debating whether I should call him or not! Thanks!

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 07-05-2006 - 6:34pm

ndbl...

Pianoguy has 3 suggestions:

1. Invest in a more reliable telephone, phone answering service or telephone answering machine...and this way, you won't have to worry about a missed call or two?

2. You made the last phone call....correct? Now it's HIS TURN to call YOU!

3. If you have his email address...set up a time when the two of you can get together for coffee, sandwich and a chat! If there's no email address available, leave a message at his workplace for HIM to call YOU!

Pianoguy

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Registered: 12-27-2004
Thu, 07-06-2006 - 9:59am
I'll give you my straight up advice.
I personally don't think he's all that interested.
I think he's feeding you stuff he thinks you wants to hear.
A man who is interested and truly interested doesn't make you feel like you have to chase them down.
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Registered: 07-05-2006
Thu, 07-06-2006 - 12:29pm


I think deep down I knew he wasn't really interested, at least not in dating me, only in sleeping with me. That seems to be the case with every guy that I meet. The funny thing is, I don't even want a serious relationship, but it would be fun to go on a date every once in awhile. I mean, I'm only 22 so I guess most of the guys I am meeting right now are not interested in dating. It's sad really because, if I do say so myself, I am a great girl, I am very pretty, I have a great body(so I'm told), and have a great personality. I guess it's his loss.

Cheryl