To call or not...URGENT
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To call or not...URGENT
| Thu, 10-07-2004 - 8:02pm |
I met a great guy back in May and we've been friends ever since. We've been out on two dates thus far and he is attentive, sweet, and wants to take me out again on Saturday (his idea). My problem is that I am totally guy-phobic right now. I've been really hurt by a lot of men in the past two years or so. I definitely want to give this guy a chance...we have a lot of potential. And my girlfriends (who have known him for five years) think he is fantastic and that we will be great together. However, I'm scared to fall for him to quickly. And I don't want to scare him by calling him too much. We don't talk every day which is good but I really want to talk to him today...should I call him? We haven't talked since Tuesday (he called me) or seen each other since last weekend (he asked me out). I could use some quick responses 'cause it's getting late! :-D Thanks.

If you call tonight, what do you plan to talk about? Why not wait til he calls you or wait til Saturday?? I think men like some bit a chase.. not for women to play games, but for the women not to be chasing them so in your situation I wouldn't call.
After a few more dates, and he calls you more often, or emails you, then you can start calling more often as well and just chitchatting, but right now I think it is too early.
I ended up calling him, but we only talked for a little while. Basically I wanted to know what was up for Saturday since I wouldn't be available to take calls on Friday and I wanted to be able to schedule my time appropriately for Saturday. Good thing I did...we have dinner reservations for 6:30pm and I wasn't expecting to get together until at least 8pm!!! Anyway, he sounded genuinely happy to hear from me, but I will take your advice to heart in the future. Many thanks.
Now I just need to figure out how to keep him at arms length... *sigh*
next time, maybe let it go till night before date and if he hasnt called , give him a call the day of the date. He should call at least the day before the date to confirm plans.
just take it easy, deep breathes! dont worry so much about rules. just watch being overly aggressive, everything else will fall into place.