Called him the wrong name

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Registered: 12-10-2003
Called him the wrong name
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Wed, 03-21-2007 - 7:21am
I went out on a great date with a guy. He emailed me the next day he had a good time too and he'd like to go out again. In the email, he purposefully called me the wrong name (a nickname I told him I hate) in a joking way. I took it with a sense of humor but the thing is, I called him the wrong name back...by mistake. The problem may be that he has a legal name, a nickname and the name he'd be called if he lived in his country. He wrote back an email confused because I had combined two of those names into one and he thought I did it on purpose because he did it first. I told him no and that there's just too many names for me to keep up with and that I sometimes combine names or call people the wrong name which is true. I also was studying for a test at the time and just had so many things on my mind. I jokingly told him he could hurt me when he sees me. He wrote back that doing something like that is unheard of and he hopes it doesn't happen to him. We're still set to meet though this weekend but now I feel bad. It's not like I wasn't apologetic but he felt like rubbing it in. Well, I suppose asking me on the first date if I have a fetish for his race because I only date his race interracially is okay even though he dates my race interracially too. I just don't like having things rubbed in my face, especially after I've apologized.
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Registered: 05-31-2005
Tue, 03-27-2007 - 7:14am
Have you gone out again? What happened? The fact that he can't let this go may be a good indication of his personality. Keep an eye on it and see if it's something you can deal with or not.
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Registered: 04-15-2006
Wed, 03-28-2007 - 6:08am
I think the confusion you two are experiencing is something lost in translation or a culture thing. At least I hope it is. Otherwise I agree with the second poster - he takes things too personally. Don't feel bad about it. It's not as if you called him the wrong name in bed after 3 years of dating!
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Registered: 04-15-2003
Thu, 03-29-2007 - 3:23pm
Let it go, see if he does as well. If so you can both move on. If he doesn't , well then you have valuable information
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