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| Tue, 09-05-2006 - 12:19am |
If a man you have been dating for about a month goes on vacation for 3 weeks and does not call you when he returns, should you have reason to worry?
I have been seeing this guy for a little more than a month about twice a week before he went on vacation. The beginning had been really intense and not that he has returned, things have cooled off. He traveled overseas with a huge group of his buddies and had a great time for 3 weeks partying and laying on the exotic beaches relaxing. He returns and doesn't call me. I instead call him cuz he told me when he would return . He returns my call the next day and casually says he's back in town and doesn't apologize for not calling me but asks me out to lunch. While he was out there, he didn't try to contact me at all. No postcards or even e-mail. I don't think this guy is serious about me.

I don't know whether he is serious or not, but he certainly seems less interested in you now that he has returned. Perhaps something happened while he was away.
Be cautious.
There is nothing to do. I wouldn't waste my time calling or writing, I'm not so impressed with this man.
I'll make a wild guess that the two of you were hot and heavy before he went away. But after 3 weeks with his friends, and maybe other women he met while at the beach, he returns and doesn't have the decency to call you. The man takes an avoidance approach and only invites you to lunch AFTER you call him wondering what is going on. Telling a guy that you missed him while he was away is something many people would do.
You had every reason to be confused. This guy is much more of a loser than you think. By breaking up with you, this man did you a favor. Time to move on and find a guy that can treat the way you so justly deserve.