camping issues

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camping issues
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Tue, 06-20-2006 - 11:02am

Hello everyone I really need your guys advice!!!

My boyfriend and I are going on a 5-day camping trip and he wants to buy a3 room tent to share with friends…BUT I would rather have a 1-room tent for my privacy. The trouble is that he already told the other couple that they could share with us!! And he won’t back down. My biggest problem is that he is trying to make everyone happy but his girlfriend ME! We have been fighting about this for 4 days now and he said if I buy a 3 room or a 1 room we are going to have to share cause I already told them that we would, the other couple are not strapped for money they can buy their own tent. They have a4 year old little girl and we have no kids. How bout if we want to have sex I know how we gets when we are drinking. I brought that up to him and he said you base our relationship on sex way too much! WTF I can not help it that I LOVE HAVING SEX WITH HIM MORE THAN EVER! I am hurt and do not what to share my piracy. SO could anyone please tell me if I am in the wrong for having privacy issues? I also told him that I would just not go it is causing too much drama. And he can have fun with out me but in my heart I really want to go but I do not want to be miserable all weekend either. PLEASE HELP thank you everyone!

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Tue, 06-20-2006 - 1:31pm

If the sole reason for wanting a one-room tent is that you don't want to go 5 days without having sex, than yes, I think your bf may have a point. Tents aren't all that private anyway, as everyone can hear you outside of it anyway. If you're that concerned about your privacy during sex, I say just don't have sex for a few days.

If he already told the other couple that you all would share, he shouldn't back down from that.

On the other hand, maybe you could let him know that in the future, you'd prefer it if he consulted you first before doling out promises that are going to affect you.

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Tue, 06-20-2006 - 2:23pm
Sex is not the only reason I want my own tent It is a privacy issues also it will be very hot where we will be camping and I like to sleep naked when is hot. I would rather not have their little girl running in on me changing or anyone for that matter. It’s not all about sex
I just want to have my own place to go when its time for bed. I need that quite time.
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Tue, 06-20-2006 - 2:43pm
Well, I'm not saying he's right - I totally think he should have checked with you before promising to share - but what are your options at this point? It doesn't look like he's going to change your mind, so your options are a) don't go, or b) go this time, share the tent, wear light pajamas, and let your bf know that NEXT time, you'd really appreciate NOT sharing.
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Tue, 06-20-2006 - 3:10pm
AHH! I really would like just not to go now, I have put SO much time in being mad about this camping trip it hurts my head. We have been dating 7 months and this is our 1st real fight. It just makes me SO mad that he would chose to make other people happy and leave me out of it! I also know that this couple that are staying with us are fighting I don’t want to be in the middle of it, and I know that the wife of this couple confides in my Bf more than I would like.
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Tue, 06-20-2006 - 4:57pm

I say buy your own tent and bring it...he can sleep with you or with them, but either way, YOU get privacy!

I think the child alone is a valid reason to not want to share a tent...I would go crazy without having a spot to have some "alone" time for that long, personally.

Sheri

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Tue, 06-20-2006 - 5:07pm
See I was think to buying my own tent to sleep in but I thought I was being a “baby”
If I did that but I like that idea cause I told him last night if he wants to buy a tent for all his friends then he can just go and buy them one. But if I buy my own I win both ways. =)
HA !
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Tue, 06-20-2006 - 6:38pm

I don't see how taking care of yourself and your own needs is being a baby. So long as you're not sulky and pouty about it, but rather just pleasant and matter of fact ("oh, I just really need my own space, I'm quirky that way"), and you don't spend ALL your time in your tent by yourself, I can't see why it would be a problem.

Sheri

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Wed, 06-21-2006 - 11:43am
Hey Thanks! I didn't think I was being a baby. but I dont want his friend to think that I can hear my BF now "well you can't sleep in our tent cuz Chanel does not want to share!"
UGH I am so done with I just don't even want to go !
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Thu, 06-22-2006 - 2:38pm

I do agree he should be taking your feelings into consideration.

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Wed, 06-28-2006 - 6:54pm

Well after all out fighting, he still bought his 3 room tent BUT I got to call his friends and explain why I had pricavey issues. So I think everyone is happy and the promblem is sloved thank you all SO much for all your help

xoxo