Can he stop acting like a child?

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Registered: 01-10-2006
Can he stop acting like a child?
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Sun, 02-04-2007 - 1:33pm

Any advice is VERY much appreciated! I have been dating this guy for about a year. He's a great guy, very attentive, very sweet, smart, etc. He's not my type (as in he's a smaller guy and I am more attracted to tall, burly men),, but he's still very attractive and the sex is great.

My main problem with him is that he is incredibly immature. He will whine, pout, etc. He doesn't do it all the time, but enough that it gets annoying. My friend came to visit this weekend and pointed it out too - so it's at the embarrasing point almost (as in, he's thirty, what is he doing acting like a kid?)

I find myself less and less attracted to him the more he acts like a child. Then when I get annoyed, he'll get very clingy (which I hate). So I find myself annoyed by him a significant portion of the time. But when I'm NOT annoyed by him he's great - we get along wonderfully.

How can I get him to start acting his age? It's really starting to drive me nuts and I don't want to feel like I'm in a relationship where I'm mothering him. And if I can't get him to act his age, should I accept it or move on? He's a wonderful, smart guy and I do love him. But sometimes I wonder if it's better off as friendship...that way I don't have to deal with his childish behavior.

Any input is greatly appreciated!!

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 02-05-2007 - 2:09pm
Other than "getting annoyed", have you had a calm conversation with him regarding this issue?