Can I compete with his previous gf?

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Registered: 07-19-2004
Can I compete with his previous gf?
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Mon, 07-26-2004 - 9:42pm
I went out with the guy about 6 times. The dates were really good. But he suddenly broke me off. He didnt give me exactly reason. But, I found out from his friend. He still attached with his previous gf. I realy like him. I feel it is so hard to get over him. Should I try to do something? Do you think I can compete with his previous gf? His friend think he will try to get back to his previous gf. Very much appreciate for any input.
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Registered: 08-10-2003
Mon, 07-26-2004 - 10:00pm
Hon, you were the rebound, he's not ready to leave his ex yet. However, I wouldn't wait around as he might go back to his ex. Time to move on.
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Registered: 07-19-2004
Tue, 07-27-2004 - 2:36am
I know that he, his exgf & his friends might do something together on this Saturday. He hasn't got reply from his exgf yet. I will know if they go out together after Saturday.I am not going to do anything now. I will see what is happening.

Any input is appreciated.

Thanks

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Registered: 05-05-2003
Tue, 07-27-2004 - 2:22pm
I'm sure that he enjoyed going out with you, but in reality he still has unfinished business with his ex gf. Whether or not he gets back together with her is irrelevant, you need to move on and find someone else. He is not ready to be in a relationship or date anyone else at this point. Have some respect for that. Would you want someone pushing you if you were unsure?

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Registered: 07-19-2004
Tue, 07-27-2004 - 8:13pm
Thanks alison for the input. It sounds cold but you are right. The last thing I want to do is to push him in this situation. I really want to move on, but it is really hard for me to get over him. I don't know what's wrong with me. We only went out 6 times. I think i know deep inside that nothing will come back to us any more. But, I just need this little hope to live. Knowing if he is getting back to his exgf might give me this little hope. I don't know. Pls say something to me. Much appreciated.
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Registered: 07-21-2004
Wed, 07-28-2004 - 12:52am
The longer you hold on to "hope", the more likely you are to hurt. That's what I've learned. It is better to invest your time and energy into finding someone who wants to be with you rather than using it all trying to convince someone who doesn't want to be with you that he really does.

As for his ex, do you really want her hanging over your heads if you did get back with this guy? BTDT, it's really lousy when you're dating someone and his ex is still lurking in the background.

Try to find someone with no ties to someone else.

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Registered: 07-19-2004
Wed, 07-28-2004 - 2:10am
Thanks for the input. Rationally, I know all you said are right. I just need time to take it in action. Hopefully I can forget about him soon. I think I got the same problem with him now - I can't get over my previous relationship even though it was a such short one. I really amazed how much I got into him in such short time. I am really not sure how good the next guy has to be to make me be over him. Fingers crossed!!! I will keep you are updated about this if you are interested. I will always be happy to hear any word from any of you. Thanks again.