Can I fix this?

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Registered: 04-16-2004
Can I fix this?
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Tue, 04-20-2004 - 12:29pm
I have been seeing someone for about two months. I have been divorced one year with a teenage daughter at home. The relationship is very new and we have been keeping it light. My daughter's father remarried recently and being divorced for 9 years. She has said she wants to live with them because I am unhappy and need time to straighten out my life. She spent the last two weeks with her dad.

Feeling very confused and rejected, I became a little too clingy to my new guy. Sunday night after having too much to drink, I go to his house. In our conversation, I push for an idea about how he feels about me. We are both gunshy about getting involved at this point. I left angry with myself for pushing him and expecting him to fix my problems.

Should I try to apologize and explain that I was indulging in a pity party. I know that I am the only one that can fix it. I really enjoy his company and want to get know him better. Should I try to explain, maybe in an email or just let it be for a while?

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Registered: 04-16-2004
In reply to: jab43
Tue, 04-20-2004 - 7:45pm
You are right. There are two different issues. After having a pity party for a week, I realized it's not about me, but how my daughter is feeling and what can I do to put our relationship back on track. I do understand her need to spend time with her Dad. With my divorce last year and her Dad remarrying after all this time, she has had to deal with a lot of changes. Being 15 is sometimes hard to handle without all these other pressures.

As for the OP, he has talked with me about this and helped. I was feeling a "rejected" and a little desperate and turned it on him. Hopefully he will understand. If not, life goes on and people come and go. I am a little unsecure in this new dating scene. Right now I feel like an idiot.

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Registered: 04-16-2004
In reply to: jab43
Wed, 04-21-2004 - 7:19pm
I left a message for him to call me back yesterday. Have not heard from him. He always returned by calls before. I will not contact him again. Just hope he will come around.

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