Can I learn from last fail dating?

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Registered: 07-19-2004
Can I learn from last fail dating?
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Tue, 08-17-2004 - 7:13pm
Hi, everyone

Thanks for reading. I met up with a guy whom I know online on Monday. He seems a nice person. I would like to know him better. He texted me right after the first meet & said that he would like to know me more. He rang me at the same night. We had good talk. He set another date on Friday nite for dinner before he is leaving for a business trip on Sunday. Everything seems fine. But I started to worry. I used to have an experience not long time ago. The guy whom I quite liked showed the interest at first, but he decided to break up & went back to his previous girl friend when I show out my interest to him. Here comes my questions: Should I email him today? (He didn't ring yesterday, which I think ok. I dont' think he should call everyday)I would like to let him know that I am interested in knowing him more, but I dont' want to scare him away. Should I always wait him to contact me first?

Thank you very much for any input.

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Registered: 08-10-2003
Tue, 08-17-2004 - 8:27pm
This guy seems to be interested in getting to know you more, BUT you seem so apprehensive with all those thoughts of failing BEFORE even starting anything. If you both will meet Friday night then talk to him Thursday or let him call you to arrainge all the details of where to meet and the time for the date. I wouln'd call him now or tomorrow...let him be the one who calls you OR you may risk showing yourself like a needy woman. In addition, I wouldn't let him know I'm really interedted now but I'll wait a few dates more to see if he's got some of the assessts I look for in a man. Not always the first impressions are the true thing.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 08-17-2004 - 8:32pm
Why would you email him? You're seeing him Friday...I wouldn't contact him other than to confirm your date if he hasn't done so by Thursday afternoon or Friday morning.

He knows you're interested...you accepted the date, right?

And there are no guarantees in dating...even when you're married, there are no guarantees. Take things slowly, take everything in the early stages with a huge grain of salt, and remember that it takes a good 4-6 months of dating to begin to know if someone has the potential to be right for you. That's all you can do...reduce the risk, but you can't eliminate it.

Sheri

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Registered: 07-19-2004
Tue, 08-17-2004 - 9:39pm
Thanks very much for such quick reply. Yes, I would like to take things SLOW. But, some time I just don't know how to do it. I wish that I knew this site when I met that guy liked. I probably won't have lost him. You've been really helpful. I will keep you guys updated. Thanks again.