Can I proposition him first?
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Can I proposition him first?
| Wed, 10-13-2004 - 6:20am |
I met a guy 2 years ago. We had sex. It was amazing. We both decided it was best not to pursue any relationship at the moment because we were both busy. However, we liked each other and became great friends over time.
I would love to have sex with him as it was unbelieavable. He is a little shy and I have a gut feeling that he hasn't made the first move since he doesn't want to appear to be a jerk. Can I proposition him? Can suggest that perhaps we should do it or should I be specific and come out and say what I want and maybe set up date and time to do it. I know its not lady like but its 2004.
Is it a turn on or not?

If I were in your position, which I have been, I would do it.
Good Luck. Let me know how it goes.
Jodie
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Just to play 'devil's advocate' with Terry and Jodie's responses...Pianoguy wonders how many women this man has been intimate with during the past 2 years? Just because each of you has been "busy"---do you think this gentleman has abstained from sex at all?
It's not that you can't protect yourself from VD, herpes or something similar...but do you want to risk the possibility of contracting one of these????
And believe it or not...some of the "shy ones" will often fool ya!
Pianoguy
So, am I correct in this? You met a guy and had sex with him 2 years ago and NOW you want to have sex with him again? Did I read that wrong?
I don't really see a lot of guys turning down sex offers, but is that what you really want here? Make sure you're on the same page as the guy- if you're offering sex in the hopes of more, then don't! Some men will take what you give them, and no, they won't suddenly realize how wonderful you are and suddenly want a relationship with you. If you seem to only be offering sex, he may take that at face value and you will be left hurt and feeling used.
If you want to date this man, and have the added bonus of the sex, then you need to come out and say that. Lay it on the line, the worst he can say is "no thanks" and you move on.
Yes, it's a progressive time we live in and women are more open with their sexuality and their desires, but remember one thing: the more partners you have, the more chance of complications. By complications, I mean pregnancy and disease. While it's great to say that some women can go out and just have flings, most women equate sex with love. Sex forms an emotional bond for most women, whereas men may not form that bond.
Be true to yourself and what you are REALLY looking for. Don't settle for less.
Alison