Can you ever stop loving someone?

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Registered: 05-17-2004
Can you ever stop loving someone?
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Fri, 07-09-2004 - 2:42am
Can you ever stop loving your SO, no matter how bad the break up was? I could understand if the break up was good, and it was settled on good terms and maybe led to friendship afterwards


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Registered: 05-05-2003
Fri, 07-09-2004 - 10:56am
I think you can. People change, things change. You may still care for someone and worry about thier wellbeing, but still love them the same? No.

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Registered: 08-22-2003
Fri, 07-09-2004 - 12:14pm
Sometimes yes, sometimes no. I still love my ex from 3 years ago. we had a very bad break up and no longer tlak. and it is heart wrenching at times to think about because we were very best friends way before we dated. and now he is gone as my best friend. And I sitll love him. It was hard to understand this and it took me close to 2 years to figure this one out.

Do I ever want him back? No, he & i would never work in a relationship - his views and relationship style does not work with mine. But i still love him. And now I am ok with this. I accept it.

But when you break up - emotions are still there and sometimes that person still remains in your heart. But its OK and normal for this to happen. YOu just have to learn to accept this and move on. It is possible. I never thought it would be possible for me to love another person when I still loved my ex.

Give yourself soem time.

And yes yoyu can be friends with an ex - I am friends with one I shared a serious rs, and 2 other guys I used to date - but the dating didnt last long. Just depends. There are exes i am not friends with because either I couldnt be - feelings there- or they were just jerks.

The key here is to give it time, and its rough in the beginning. So let time pass and be fully moved on , then friendship with the ex will work much better.

Good Luck