Can you trust what he says? Exclusive?
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Can you trust what he says? Exclusive?
| Wed, 04-14-2004 - 7:11pm |
Hi all --
I've been seeing someone for about 2 months now. He's a really wonderful guy, treats me very well, and says he really likes me, I'm beautiful, etc. We have a great time when we are together. I am just not sure if I really believe him. I say this because he's still logging onto the website we met through on practically a daily basis. Is he hedging his bets? Should I just not let this bother me until we decide we are exclusive? Am I being WAY too silly and overanalyzing things?? I don't have all that much experience in the dating realm (i.e. technical virgin) but even if I did I wouldn't want to be sleeping with someone who was still dating other women. THoughts?? Any feedback would be appreciated! Thanks!
I've been seeing someone for about 2 months now. He's a really wonderful guy, treats me very well, and says he really likes me, I'm beautiful, etc. We have a great time when we are together. I am just not sure if I really believe him. I say this because he's still logging onto the website we met through on practically a daily basis. Is he hedging his bets? Should I just not let this bother me until we decide we are exclusive? Am I being WAY too silly and overanalyzing things?? I don't have all that much experience in the dating realm (i.e. technical virgin) but even if I did I wouldn't want to be sleeping with someone who was still dating other women. THoughts?? Any feedback would be appreciated! Thanks!
Sophie

If and when you have an exclusivity discussion be sure to include removing dating site profiles etc.
ok don't log on to see if hes been active on the website. learn ot trust. this is something you have to find within yourself before you get serious. you aren't ready. and i'm not saying this to be mean,but its a fact.
I had issues trusting awhile back, and it was making me crazy when i dated people. Nowadays, I am more relaxed in that area because i worked on my trust issues.
If you look at every guy as "burning" you, then you won't have a very happy dating life.
Things will happen, because they do. People make choices and you can't always control that. But you can control how you deal with certain situations like cheating. But that is much later in a relationship than you are now. Give the guy the benefit of the doubt.
If hes sitll seeing others let him. IMO i think its good for the guy I'm dating to date others. It lets me put myself above the others and really see if we're meant for one another. why i think its good to date others until you decide someone is a good fit for you in a relationship
So, stop logging on, that would drive me nuts :)... and concentrate on you, the fun you have with the new guy... see where it goes.
Sophie