Can't figure out if he's interested
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| Thu, 09-23-2004 - 6:39pm |
Things seemed great! There was no lull in conversation or laughter.
Then we spoke on Wednesday, and on Friday after noon of that week. Again, very fun conversations, where I had to get him off the phone. Oddly though he didn't ask me out for the weekend.
Saturday afternoon I called him about something we had discussed on Friday and we ended up talking for 2 hours. Again, just upbeat fun conversation. Yes, I know I called him which is a no no, but then he got a call in mid conversation and then called me back. ...I didn't ask him to and frankly thought we were just bs'ing so there wasn't a reason to talk anymore unless he wanted to make plans to do something.
This is all in the first week.
Week 2 (last week), we spoke on Wednesday. I called to see if he wanted to come over for dinner since I know he had a bunch of friends and family coming into town on Thur so figured he'd be spending all his time entertaining them. He said he couldn't but then still continued to talk. I half expected to get that feeling one gets when you call a guy who really doesn't want to talk to you, but didn't. Not at all. In fact just the opposite since 2 min into the conversation he had to get off the phone for a work thing and then immediately called me back to talk.
His friends finally left this past Monday night, and Tuesday I saw him in the gym. We spoke briefly then I went on to continue my workout and he his. When we were both done he came up to me and we stood and talked for long time and walked out together. He was flirty, goofing off with me, and I got the impression was still very much interested...except he still didn't ask me to do anything.
I don't get it.
Should I just drop it and assume he's lost interest?

Erin
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Sorry...as the new buzzwords go (did you see Oprah yesterday?), he's just not that into you. If he were, he'd ask you out. Period.
Sheri
Sheri
Ever since that SATC episode, that phrase has been tossed around. Frankly, I consider it flip and mean spirited to take a trademark statement from TV show and apply it to someone's personal issue (as small as that issue may be). Why has that saying caught on so? "Sorry he's just not that into you". It's almost as bad as "Talk to the hand".
But whichever way you think of it, the end result is the same...if he were really interested, available, and emotionally healthy, he'd be asking her out. Many of us on these boards have been preaching that message for years, but it's taken a man writing a book for some women to start getting it. I don't understand why it's such big "news", but apparently it is to many women...did you see Oprah's show????? I couldn't believe what some of those women were holding onto as hope that he was really interested.
Sheri
And yes I agree, women spend a lot of energy analyzing what men are doing and deluding themselves into thinking that a disinterested man is really "secretly in love with them".