Can't get over it
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| Fri, 01-20-2006 - 9:40am |
Hello,
My boyfriend of 1 year and I just broke up this past Sunday. I was not happy in the relationship at all and all we did was fight and argue, so I know this is for the best. But, I cannot get over it. I've been so unhappy since all of this happened last weekend. I cry all the time, I'm constantly wondering what he's doing, if he's thinking about me. He has tried to call me and has sent emails saying he still loves me and wants to work on things, but we've been though this before and nothing changes, which is why I know this has to be done and I haven't responded to him at all. I haven't spoke to him since Monday and it's hurting me so much to do this cause I do love him but I'm not happy. I want to call him so bad, but I know this will just keep going in circles with all the fighting and I'll still be very unhappy. How can I get myself to let go? This is so extremely hard for me. Any thoughts/comments are very appreciated.
Stacey

Hi Stacey!
Pianoguy has a suggestion.
If most of your time together was spent FIGHTING and ARGUING, put those words ahead of anything else that's inside your head! The 2 of you might have been terrific friends and lovers at the beginning, but judging from what you've written, things began to deteriorate as time went by?
Try to remember that the desires of a couple usually CHANGE the more they interact with each other. Very often, the "wants and needs" of each half become completely different!
Besides, if the only thing the 2 of you did was FIGHT WITH EACH OTHER....what's the point of recycling that disappointment?
SO MOVE FORWARD AND DON'T LOOK BACK!
Pianoguy
Hi Pianoguy,
That's all easy for you to say ;-) I know that's what I should do, it's just so hard. I keep thinking that maybe SOMEDAY things can change for us and everything would be fine again. I know I have to stop thinking that though, cause we have tried numerous times to work things out to no avail. Thank you for your comments though, I have to keep trying to move on I guess.
Stacey
Thank you Yaddie, maybe that is what I need. I have some gift certificates from Christmas that I haven't used yet, so maybe they'll come in handy now. I'm willing to try anything to try to cheer me up, even if it's just a little bit. Thanks again.
Stacey
Hey Stacey,
You know, even bad breakups are hard to get over.