Dear Dating Doyenne:
I dated a guy for about 6 months quite seriously and he cheated on me. I broke up with him, telling him that this was not something that I was willing to tolerate. We had absolutely no contact whatsoever for about 3 months, at which point I conceded to see him again after he repeatedly promised that he had changed and that he had just been "scared" before. As soon as I gave in he closed himself off and we went through another period of no contact. Lately he has been calling me again and I am hearing through mutual friends that he is still crazy about me and is so sorry for what has happened in the past and how much he has changed. I am not over him; I think I am hanging onto the hope that he really will change someday and this is preventing me from moving on. I really want to trust him, and want to believe that this could work but I am just so scared to believe him again and be crushed again. Can people really change or do they just pretend temporarily and hurt you all over again? How do I let go?