Can't Understand...

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Registered: 10-17-2004
Can't Understand...
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Sun, 10-17-2004 - 8:00pm
Hi everyone…how's evrything going? hope its going well.

Actually, my problem lies in the fact that I’ve never dated before and I’ve never dealt with guys that much, and so, I can’t understand their personalities as I do with girls.

The main Problem lies in the fact that I’ve been employed a week ago. The guy (H) whom I met on the interview day was really nice, gentle, and light-spirited. I liked him so much.Thank God, I aced the interview and I got the job. Actually, (H) and I don’t work at the same place. But he drops in every now and then. His office is in a nearby building.

Whenever he comes in my office, he starts making up jokes, bringing up issues trying to let me talk a bit. You know. I’m new in the place and little bit stressed because I am still not used to the job. Sometimes i feel like he admires me. But that really makes me confused. Is he interested? Playing around with a new innocent girl? a gentle guy who’s trying to let me feel at ease.

I am interested. But I don’t know how he feels. I wanna know. Give me signs. Hints to help me find out. And if he’s not interested how can I let him be interested.

I’ve something to add. Whenever he��s in my office (bearing in mind that my office is often crowded) I really feel confused and my head is steaming up. No one notice (thank God I can hide that). But I don’t wanna feel that confused even between me and myself.

Please tell me. What am I supposed to do?

P.S. bear in mind I come from a traditional Middle-Eastern country. Girls are not supposed to be very awkward.



Thanks for your Help,

Sincerely yours,

E.H.

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Registered: 08-10-2003
Sun, 10-17-2004 - 8:14pm
It is possible that this guy is trying to "feel" the situation and get some signs that you're interested too. However, this guy might be just flirting with no intensions of asking you out as well. If you're interested too you could let him know that you are, in a subtle manner that is. You could say that you both should go out for coffee or meet for lunch. If he's interested then he might take you up on it by saying "yes, we should how about tomorrow" or such. If he's not that interested he'll probably say "yeah, we should do that some time" with no especifics. Since you're brand new to the job be careful regarding dating co-workers, there might be a policy against it. Find out first and if not then go ahead.
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Registered: 10-17-2004
Mon, 10-18-2004 - 3:38am
Hi "ccruise2001" for your reply, i really appreciate.

Actually, as a Middle-Eastern girl, I'm not supposed to ask a Man for a date. That would be very awkward action and i don't wanna frighten him.

Hope you'd have another solution for me.Thanks.:)